I'm sorry for your loss. I hope that she gets the help that she needs.

It doesn't sound like she's open to your thoughts and feelings which sucks. You are a good writer and maybe writing her a letter will help? At the very least, it gives you the ability to voice your feelings and try to create some boundaries when you are around her.

I respect you coming to terms and sharing your story. I've lost friends over this political circus act and delusion. Best of luck Brad.